(The story so far: Catullus and
Germanicus, two brothers with oddly anachronistic names, are sitting
in a coffee shop arguing about the nature of reality, the nature of
man and his moral acts, and the nature of nature. Catullus has just
graciously agreed to pretend that he believes in natural law in order
to give rules to the game.)
Germanicus: Okay. So according to the natural
law there are three basic precepts for practical reasoning.
Self-preservation --
Catullus: Hold on. I said I
would give you a
natural law argument. So sit quiet a moment and listen. Premise one:
the human person is, by nature, a spiritual being who is extended
into a material existence for the purpose of giving and receiving
love.
Germanicus:
Whose definition is that?
Catullus:
Mine. And I believe that it is emminently rational. Obviously we have
an experience of psychosomatic duality. My intuition tells me that
the spiritual or mental aspects of my self are more essentially me
than my body: I can conceive of a ghost as my “self,” I cannot
conceive of a corpse in the same way. I can conceive of the spiritual
part of me existing without a body, thinking, reasoning, perceiving
forms directly through the imagination, receiving infused knowledge
and inspiration from gods and muses. So what is the purpose of the
body? To me, it seems clear that it is to allow an escape from the
tedious insularity of absolute subjectivism. Bodies permit
intersubjective interface between human beings. And why do we seek
such interface? Because we do not wish to be lonely. Because we hope
to love and be loved.
Germanicus:
You're assuming that we deliberately create our own bodies. That
seems like a weird assumption.
Catullus:
Whether we deliberately create them or have them bestowed on us by
gods or by demons is totally irrelevant. Everyone past the age of
deliberation is perfectly capable of divesting himself of his body at
a moment's notice. If he so desires, a straight razor or noose will
quickly do the trick. Therefore our bodies are, in an important
respect, chosen.
Germanicus: But
if our bodies are bestowed on us by something or someone else, then
they're not ours to do with as we will. If they're just an
epiphenomenon of mentality, then we have to get into the question of
where our spiritual selves come from. You can't address questions of
nature without addressing questions of origin.
Catullus: I
think that you can make reasonable assertions about what a thing is
for without necessarily knowing where it came from.
Germanicus:
Not with anything sophisticated. Let's say you have a person who has
never interacted with any human artifact before. Give the guy a
knife, and even if he has no idea of the intention of the knife-maker
he'll probably be using it to cut up meat by the end of the day. Give
the guy an i-Pod, and he'll probably hang it around his neck as an
ornament, or start sacrificing small animals to it. A human person is
a tremendously complex entity.
Catullus: A
tremendously complex self-aware
entity. And that makes all the difference in the world. I'm not an
artifact that I found lying about on the serengetti. I know what I am
for because I know what brings me happiness, fulfillment, pleasure,
and joy. I don't need to know who or what lies somewhere over the
epistemological rainbow, all I need is the evidence of my lived
experience.
Germanicus: And
you're saying that in your lived experience, the thing that brings
you happiness and such is loving and being loved.
Catullus:
Precisely.
Germanicus:
Okay, but let's say that you had an experience of loving and of being
loved, but it was false. The other person was just taking advantage
of you, laughing behind your back, creating an illusion for some
ulterior motive. Would you be happy with that?
Catullus:
Obviously not. I would be unhappy because my natural desire for love
was being thwarted.
Germanicus:
Because the love isn't true. Right?
Catullus: Oh,
I see. You're trying to smuggle truth into the discussion. I'll
concede beauty for you in advance, by the way, just so you don't have
to waste time. Truth, obviously, is an important quality of true
love. But in so far as truth does not serve love or beauty, I don't
give a fig for it.
Germanicus: Is
that statement true?
Catullus:
It's honest. Truth and honesty are not exactly the same thing. Truth
claims some sort of objective status, whereas honesty, good faith and
authenticity are perfectly possible in a purely subjective sense. So
I take back what I said about true love. So long as love is
authentic, it is worth having.
Germanicus:
Love and beauty are both impossible without truth. Love without truth
just becomes emotionalism, and beauty without truth just becomes
sentimentalism. Besides, when you love something, or someone, you
love because of something of genuine, enduring value. If the object
of love is not truly worthy of love, then loving it will ultimately
bring unhappiness and dissatisfaction.
Catullus No.
If the object of love is not capable of reciprocating, then it will
ultimately bring dissatisfaction. That's why you can't get through
life being in love with your stuffed animals. But if the beloved is
capable of loving in return, and if they do so, then the love will be
satisfying. That's why people are constantly falling in love,
marrying, and having happy lives with people who everyone else finds
odious. Everyone else is incapable of experiencing the reciprocity of
feeling which makes such love valuable.
Germanicus: I
don't know if that “constantly” happens, but I do know that
people very often fall in love, and then fall out of love, and that
it makes them miserable. That's why love has to be grounded in
something more enduring, more true,
than mere passion. If it's just subjective feeling it doesn't do what
you said it was supposed to do, it doesn't get us out of our insular
subjectivity.
Catullus: But
you're talking about escaping from subjectivity into objectivity. I'm
talking about escaping from insularity into relatedness. The former
requires truth, the latter merely requires authenticity.
Germanicus: I'm
talking about the fact that the passions are no basis for a moral
system.
Catullus: I
never said they were.
Germanicus:
Then what do you mean by love?
Catullus: I
mean that which allows a person to transcend isolated subjectivity
and enjoy communion with another person. Obviously there are numerous
different modes of loving, and they are not all reducable to mere
emotionalism. Loving another person requires responsibility, and
perseverence, and forgiveness, and communication, and all sorts of
other things that have nothing to do with the passions.
Germanicus: But
how are you going to derive an obligation to be responsible, or to
persevere, without appealing to objective truth?
Catullus:
That is how lovers naturally behave if their love is authentic. If
love is inauthentic, then there is absolutely nothing at all for
anyone to gain through some sort of obligatory perseverence and
responsibility. All you get then is an empty simulation of the
effects of love, but without love at the heart of it. And there are
few things that make people more consistently unhappy than the
continuation of the forms of love after love is gone.
Germanicus:
Then it all comes down to emotionalism. You're hiding behind this
language of “authenticity,” but what you really mean is that if
people feel love then they will do all of these other things that are
morally laudable, but if they don't feel love then they won't and
they don't have to.
Catullus: No.
Because love itself is obligatory. It is the only obligation. Once
you have set your heart on something you must not be fickle. If you
stop “feeling” love, then you have an obligation to delve within
yourself and within the relationship until you find it again. That is
why lovers take vows, in order to relieve one another of the fear of
abandonment. It is also, incidentally, why you are not going to
convince me that I ought to give up my love because it is
“unnatural.” I don't break my promises on the basis of
casuistries.
Germanicus:
You're equivocating between love and sex. I'm not suggesting that you
give up love. I'm suggesting that there are cases where the latter is
incompatible with the former. But since you're not willing to
entertain the notion of objectivity, I'll meet you half-way. I think
I can prove, within a framework of intersubjective authenticity, that
sometimes sex is a betrayal of love.
(End of Part II)
To posit a situation not entirely untrue: If I deeply love a person of my own sex, and, yes, of a different age, if that love does indeed have a component of strong sexual desire, and if I am convinced that following through on that sexual desire would be harmful to the one I love, would it not be a betrayal of that very love to allow it to manifest in sexual action?
ReplyDeleteNevermind on my previous reply- I see that it is by design that Cat. separates love and sex.
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